Monday, February 29, 2016

Wednesday, February 24, 2016

Clement on True Beauty and Love

"He who in chaste love looks on beauty, thinks not that the flesh is beautiful, but the spirit, admiring, as I judge, the body as an image, by whose beauty he transports himself to the Artist, and to the true beauty." 
"And the happiness of marriage ought never to be estimated either by wealth or beauty, but by virtue."
-- Clement of Alexandria

Yes. Yes, yes, yes. This is what I've tried so often to express about my admiration for a woman's beauty. It's not until you see her inner beauty that you begin to truly appreciate her outer beauty. It's the beauty of her spirit that makes her external person beautiful. And it's His beauty shining through her that makes her spirit beautiful. She's like a clear bottle filled with colored liquid, set in the windowsill for the sun to shine through. The bottle is pretty, the color makes it prettier, but it's the sunlight that really brings it all to life and makes it shine.

Monday, February 22, 2016

Things Jesus Didn't Say

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have correct doctrine."

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you are more righteous than everyone else."

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if your liturgy is rightly ordered."

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if your worship is emotional and sensational."

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if your preaching is powerful and inspirational."

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you are in communion with the Bishop of Rome."

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you follow the teachings of John Calvin."

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you are prosperous, healthy, and successful."

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you work hard and live a virtuous life."

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you are politically and socially active in the right causes."

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you are nice to everyone all the time."


What Jesus did say:

"By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another." -- John 13:35
I realized something about myself last night. I'm finally able to put a name to the thing I'm feeling, that's left me emotionally crippled: it's shame.

Think of it this way: imagine you're a man with a daughter, to whom you've given your whole heart and everything you can. Now imagine that you have been publicly (and falsely) accused of abusing her. Try to imagine how you would feel every time you see her by accident, run into people you both know, happen upon anything that reminds you of her. Think about how hard it would be to keep going to the same places and associating with the same people, when every word feels accusatory and every look feels like suspicion.

That's how I feel at having been made out to be the kind of man who would hurt a woman, stalk a woman, harass a woman, force unwanted attentions on a woman, disregard a woman's volition and free will and try to browbeat her into acquiescence, or even intentionally make her uncomfortable and fearful. Do you understand now why I can't just keep going to church with her, keep being friends with all the same people, just act like nothing's happened? And worst of all, I still love them. Just like the father in my example would still love his daughter and, in spite of everything, still wish above all to be reconciled to her.

A while back, the wife and several children of a family I love were in a car accident. I heard about it, and went out and bought them some flowers and balloons and things, and went to visit them in the hospital. But on the way there, I was gripped with fear and almost turned around: I was afraid that, having heard these lies about me, the father was going to meet me outside their room and say, "I want you to stay away from my family."

It didn't happen that way, but I tell you this to illustrate the state of my heart because of all this. And everything is like this. Every single Sunday and Wednesday that I went to that church, after this started, I was afraid like that. That someone was going to take me aside and say, "Look, we think it would be better if you didn't come here anymore." Or that a deputy was going to be waiting for me with a restraining order.

Maybe you don't understand how the one thing could be as bad as the other for me, but it is. I love women. Always have. Even though my mother left when I was small and my stepmother treated me like a turd. I love women, and nothing--nothing in the world makes me happier than protecting them, taking care of them, being good and kind to them, making them happy, seeing them blossom and glow under my love and attention. I love women the way women love babies. I don't know why, that's just how God made me.

So when this happened once, it devastated me. When it happened a second time, it destroyed me. I am broken and I see no hope, save divine intervention, that I will ever fully recover.

Sunday, February 21, 2016

Sheepdog Speech from American Sniper



This is too weird. This is EXACTLY what I used to tell my sons.

Except I would add that the dog actually has, in some ways, more in common with his enemy, the wolf, than with the sheep: you can't train an attack sheep to protect the flock; you have to tame a wolf. And the dog loves the sheep, but the sheep are almost as afraid of him as they are of the wolf. So being a sheepdog is a lonely life.

Saturday, February 20, 2016

Drugs and Feelings

Well it seems that the medication was inadequate to cope with an accidental encounter with her and her mother: my emotions completely overrode it, and I spent the following week or so in a tailspin. I was at a restaurant, and they walked in. I couldn't eat, and sat there trying to keep my hands from visibly shaking the whole time. I'd have just left, but I was with people. My God, I love them both so much still. Why?

So I've increased the dosage.

The pills don't make me feel better, per se. But they are allowing me to more or less function. And I'm only now realizing how non-functional I've been. I haven't bought a birthday present for any of my kids in three years or so. I haven't taken my cat to the vet. There are a hundred things I wanted to do with my house and land, and I haven't done any of them. I'm almost out of firewood because I've only been cutting bare minimal amounts as I need it. I've been just barely keeping up day-to-day with buying groceries, paying bills, fixing things when they break. I've been existing in a little bubble, unable to face anything outside a very small sphere of the immediate and the urgent, just hoping and praying all day every day that this nightmare is going to end. I can't watch any new movies if they are at all emotionally intense; I just get overwhelmed. I'm alright if I've already seen it and know the end, or if the movie is just fun or entertaining. Far from the Maddening Crowd, for instance, just wrecked me.

The drugs aren't really a solution. I know that from experience. They're just a stop-gap measure to keep me more or less on my feet for the time being.

I still get a lot of "Well, why can't you just...." I just can't. Everybody's got their Achilles' heel, their breaking point, and this is mine. Some of those who judge me for not being able to just brush this off and move on would wet themselves and be reduced to a quivering mass if they had to face some of the things I have faced with steady courage. So nevermind judging me and condescending, just accept that this thing, at this time, with these people, was too much for me. I guess this is what, when I was a kid, they used to call "a nervous breakdown".

Thursday, February 18, 2016

Father of Lights



This is exactly what I'm talking about when I talk about God speaking, God working, God bringing things together. The power of God, as it really is: not fake hype and ridiculous showmanship, but in simplicity, humility, and most of all love.

I'm talking about having a relationship with the Almighty. Not going to church, following the rules, saying your prayers, and hoping you'll be saved one day after you die: a real, genuine, tangible, supernatural, actual relationship with God. Every single day. Power and Love. Prayers answered. Wisdom and guidance. Forgiveness and acceptance.

Watch this movie. Seriously, just watch it. In fact, watch all of them: there are five.

Finger of God

Furious Love

Father of Lights

Holy Ghost

Holy Ghost Reborn

Most of the guys in these movies are contemporary non-denominational types. And that's fine: it's the relationship with God that matters. I'm not saying that you have to become one of them, or that I'm going to become one of them, in order to have this kind of relationship with the Lord. I say, why not have it, but also practice the Ancient Faith and rejoice in all the beauty of Christendom and the treasures of the Church--why not have it all? Be like this, but be an Anglican. Be like this, but be a Catholic. Be like this, and be Orthodox. Or if you want, keep being Baptist, or Presbyterian, or whatever it is that you like and are. The power of experiential relationship gives life to the tradition, and the tradition gives structure to the experience. The Christian life should be built on three foundations: the Bible, the Church, and the Holy Spirit. Take one away and the table falls.

Neither does it mean that everyone must become a missionary to the darkest corners of the globe, or one of these guys who just walk up to people on the street and start talking about Jesus. I'm certainly not. Everyone has his own calling. The thing, as Maria in The Sound of Music so eloquently puts it, is "to find out what is the will of God and do it wholeheartedly".

If you have a theology that doesn't allow for the real presence of the Holy Spirit in your life, you are wrong. Plain and simple. You're just wrong.

Find God. Seek God. Know God. What I'm saying is: live what you say you believe. You are a Christian, therefore you say you believe the Bible. Well, the Bible says that God walks among us in power and in love. It says that we are to be guided by the Holy Spirit, day by day, moment by moment. It says that Christians are supposed to be healing the sick, casting out demons, performing signs and wonders, destroying the works of the devil, and overcoming by the Blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony. Not playing church and using the Word as nothing but a self-help manual, or worse yet, a book of rules and laws by which to judge others and feel superior, like the sanctimonious smug old lady who drives five mph below the speed limit in the left lane to show everybody else that she is following the rules, and they should be too.

If Christians spent less time judging and more time loving, the world would be a very different place.

When you get to the part about Operation Restored Warrior and the Navy SEAL in the last one, remember what I said some time ago about truly tough men being sensitive and vulnerable, as opposed to guys who act tough and unemotional, but are really just hard-hearted and weak. I know many, many people, even a lot of Christians, who will scoff and mock when they see these guys standing around, crying and talking in soft voices about their feelings and the hurts in their pasts. But remember, these guys are Green Berets, Rangers, and Navy SEALs. They would eat those people for breakfast and wash them down with nails. And if you want a biblical perspective, remember David. David was--there's no other word for it--a badass. But he cried, he wept, he danced, he sang, he wrote poetry, he talked to his best friend about how much he loved him. And God said that David was a man after His own heart.

When they talk about the Holy Spirit revealing "layers" for healing, that's exactly what I've been experiencing the last few years: layer upon layer of stuff buried in my soul, that needed to be exposed and dealt with. But without the benefit of brothers standing around supporting me and helping me through it: I've gone through it all alone.

Last thing: there are one or two things in these films that even I'm not sure about, and I'm open to pretty much anything. I have doubts about things like gold dust and manna. There's one guy briefly featured in the first movie that I'm pretty sure is a big phony. And there's someone repeating a story of a monk that has since been shown to be probably spurious. I mean, can God do things like this? Yeah. Because he's...you know...God. Does he? I don't know. I think it's probably naive and gullible to just accept everything you hear uncritically, but I also don't wan't to sit in judgment when the fact is I just don't know. None of it is in disagreement with anything taught int the Bible. So I leave it an open question. Eat the chicken and throw away the bones.

But none of that is the point: the filmmaker is on a journey of discovery, and there are always going to be a few wrong turnings, or things we miss out on, on such a journey. But the Love and Power of God are real, and you can clearly see them in action, especially as the series progresses. And that is unmistakable and certainly true.
Last night I saw an Angel in my room.

It was the same as when I saw the Lord a few months ago, and now I understand that visitation better too: I think now that He was in my room, but that it felt like I was somewhere else because His glory made everything else disappear. But this time, the glory of the Angel being less than His, it wasn't so overwhelming.

I heard a sound--hard to describe. Something between a humming, a vibration, and music. And at the same time, I saw a bright white light moving around the room, and then stopping and standing by my side. And then, like before, it was over. I don't know if my perception just ended, or if the Angel departed.

This is pretty cool.

Tuesday, February 16, 2016

Doing the Work of Christ

I spent last week with my friends from India: first Peter and Helen, whom you've seen before here, and then Devan, who, if you remember, is the one to whom Jesus appeared while he was living in Mother Theresa's orphanage.

A week or so before Devan arrived, I had a dream that he was going to be attacked. I won't give the details, except to say that it was gossip and slander by a third party, whom I don't know, haven't met, and had never heard of. But I wrote to him and warned him, and when he got here he told me that exactly what I had warned him of had happened, but it seems that the damage has been minimized by our prayers, which is, I think, the reason I received the warning (Thank you, Lord). Also, just after I had the dream, a cobra tried to get into his house back in India where his wife and children were.

Then, while he was here, he told me that his wife had called him and told him that the Lord had told her that he should ask me to pray for the money to put the roof on the first level of the new orphanage they are rebuilding after losing the old building in a flood. So I did. We prayed, and I said I thought that somebody was going to just write him a check for the $5000 he needed. Well that night, I dropped him off for a meeting with someone here in Charlottesville, and someone wrote him a check for $5000.

It's very important that you understand that this isn't a story about me: it is about how God works all things together, through his servants, for their good and for the accomplishment of his will. Not unto us, O Lord, but to thy name be the glory.

It's no wonder the enemy wants to destroy brother Devan, when you look at the good work he's doing: feeding orphans and widows, caring for lepers, educating the poor, providing medical care for the sick, showing love to the outcast and the untouchable: in other words, actually doing all the things that Jesus told us to do.



Incidentally, if you're interested in helping someone less fortunate than yourself, all these children need sponsors:











These children are found wandering literally naked and starving on the streets. They are untouchable, and so Hindus believe that they are living out their bad karma from a previous life by being born to suffer, and consequently good Hindus are doing their religious duty by not helping them. Not to mention that if they touch one of them, they have to bathe seven times, and wash their house, their clothes, and everything they own seven times. And what a nuisance! Right? Some of them have been rescued out of the sex trade. Funny, how they can be touched as prostitutes, but not with compassion.

The beauty of God's kingdom is shown in the fact that my one friend, Peter, was born a Brahmin, in the priestly caste on the very top of Hindu society and the other, Devan, was born Dalit, or untouchable, at the very bottom. And now they are friends and brothers, and living very much the same life, as pastors and missionaries for Christ. Incidentally, brother Peter gave up his caste and all the privileges associated with it when he became a Christian: Christians have no caste at all, being in some ways below even the untouchables. Peter was obviously not his birth name: he took that after his conversion.

Anyway, for $47 a month, a living human child can be fed, clothed, housed, educated, and sent to the doctor when he or she is sick. This isn't one of those giant "children's fund" organizations: brother Devan actually lives and works with these orphans every day. And, incidentally, only eats one meal a day because he is surrounded by starving children. If you're interested, contact me and I will put you in touch with Devan and with the American organization which processes his donations (the president of which I know personally, and can guarantee you that 100% of your money goes to support the child). I'm currently supporting two myself.
"Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world: For I was an hungered, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in: Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me. Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungered, and fed thee? or thirsty, and gave thee drink? When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked, and clothed thee? Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee? And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me." -- Matt 25:34-40

Monday, February 15, 2016

Clement on the True Gnostic

"Such patience will the Gnostic, as a Gnostic, possess. He will bless when under trial, like the noble Job; like Jonas, when swallowed up by the whale, he will pray, and faith will restore him to prophesy to the Ninevites; and though shut up with lions, he will tame the wild beasts; though cast into the fire, he will be besprinkled with dew, but not consumed. He will give his testimony by night; he will testify by day; by word, by life, by conduct, he will testify. Dwelling with the Lord, he will continue his familiar friend, sharing the same hearth according to the Spirit; pure in the flesh, pure in heart, sanctified in word. 'The world,' it is said, 'is crucified to him, and he to the world.' [Gal 6:14] He, bearing about the cross of the Savior, will follow the Lord's footsteps, as God, having become holy of holies." -- Clement of Alexandria, Stromata, II, xx

Clement uses the term "Gnostic" here in opposition to those heretical cults who thus called themselves, and who have received so much renewed attention in recent years (but with a curious absence of mention of the outright silliness of their doctrines, whose metaphysics and cosmology exceed the absurdity of the deepest secrets of Dianetics or Mormonsim). The word is from the Greek "gnosis" meaning knowledge or wisdom, specifically mystical enlightenment and insight, and his argument, as that of other Church Fathers who strove against these doctrines, is that the true Gnostic is the man whose wisdom comes from God, through the Scriptures and the Holy Spirit.

So, what he is getting at here is that "the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance" [Gal 5:22-23]: that such character and behavior as was taught by Jesus, i.e., blessing when cursed, loving when hated, praying when despitefully used, is the result of a real, mystical, supernatural relationship with the Holy Spirit of God, in which we have died to ourselves and now live in Christ.

"Assimilation to God, then, so that as far as possible a man becomes righteous and holy with wisdom"
-- Clement, Stromata, II, xxii

Tuesday, February 9, 2016

Everything that follows is a result of what you see here.

I'm thinking about that very brief moment in my life when I thought things were going to be different. What was it? A few days? A week, maybe. When I was at grad school. I was happy. Things were going well. I had friends (I thought). I'd met a girl, who really, really liked me (or so she'd said). And I thought, "My life is getting better." I'd begun to come out of my shell, I'd started opening up, and I believed that I'd finally found my path. And then the whole earth was yanked from underneath my feet. And everything that has followed has been a direct result of that.

I can see it all clearly now. A lie was told about me; and that Lie followed me, clung to me, and took on a life of its own, like the black stuff in Spiderman. And I even started to partially believe it myself. Not literally, because I knew it had no truth: but I questioned and blamed myself, wondering what I could have done to cause people to see me that way and say those things about me. Like an abused child who keeps wondering what he did to make his parents hate him. And it made me act in strange and, even to me, sometimes incomprehensible ways, in my fear and desperation to stop the Lie from making any more inroads into my life.

And the Lie spawned other, related lies, and set up a little lie stronghold in my life. The tragic irony is that they're all exactly opposite the truth. They said that I'm a stalker, when really I'm the most chivalrous man in the world--protecting women is "every third thought" in my mind, as one lady friend once put it. I would die for the woman I love, then ask God to send me back just so I could die for her again. They said I don't respect women's volition and free will, when in truth I've lost out time after time after time with women to guys who use the high-pressure sales tactic, while I stand back and wait for her to make a good choice out of her own free will. They said I was "only interested in one thing," when I'm actually the gentlest, most respectful man you'll ever meet. You know, when I first committed myself to my ex, who was at the time pregnant with someone else's child, I moved in with her and took care of her, but never touched her for many months, until she was ready. Slept in the same bed, and never pressured her. And I was eighteen and healthy. Find another man who is that gentle and respectful toward women, and who holds them in such high honor and regard. They said I'm a manipulator, when actually I'm so honest and vulnerable that I harm myself, trying so hard to be completely truthful and make sure I haven't hurt or offended anybody, that I end up making a naive idiot of myself.

But the Lie continues to grow and gain strength, and it has taken over and destroyed my whole life.

And so, what about what people always tell me? Move on. Find another church. Find another girl. Find new friends. I can't. It will follow me. Even if I go somewhere far away, and never talk about it, somewhere, somehow, it will follow me. I'll let fall that I used to live in Charlottesville, and someone will ask what church I went to, and then they'll say, "Oh, I know so-and-so who was at that church." Or the same thing will happen when it gets out that I went to Sewanee. And then that person will just happen to talk to so-and-so, and mention they know me, and so-and-so will say, "Keep an eye on that guy. There was some weird stuff circulating about him." And then, because once you've been accused of something it's automatically true for the rest of your life, whether you're actually guilty or not, that person will go to the rector, or the father of the girl I've met, and say, "Listen, keep an eye on that guy, because I heard something disturbing." And it will start all over again.

The Big Bang Theory - Superpowers



This is the real reason I love this show. Pay attention when Sheldon tells what his superpower would be and why. This is exactly what life is like for me. Always has been. And it seems, always will be. I identify powerfully with Sheldon and his struggle to navigate life in a world he doesn't quite understand, despite his great intelligence. And I love the sweet little platonic friendship between him and Penny.

Sunday, February 7, 2016

The Waters above the Heavens

I was thinking today about the first chapter of Genesis, and how there were truths buried there that would have been impossible for a bronze-age shepherd to have come up with, even though he had been given the best Egyptian education: compare Egyptian cosmology and creation accounts, which are typically crude and absurd by our standards, to that of Genesis. For example, consider the fact that plants are created and growing on the third day, yet the sun is not set in the heavens over the earth until the fourth--which would have been absolutely illogical for any human mind to have conceived as the order of creation--everyone knows plants have to have the sun to grow. So here's something in what purports to be a divinely-inspired account of  the origin of the universe, which from the time of its writing around 1500 BC seems directly opposed to all knowledge and observation--seemingly impossible. Until 1965 AD, when cosmic background radiation was discovered, proving that the universe during the ages following the big bang had been filled with what was once visible light, which through the doppler effect later faded into the infrared background radiation we can now observe only with instruments. In other words, the story in Genesis: that first God said "Let there be light" is supported by modern astrophysics--plants grew on the earth in the universal created light, and it was only as that light faded that the sun was necessary to light the earth.

What you have to bear in mind is that Paleo-Hebrew, the language which Moses spoke and in which he first recorded the scriptures, did not have words, nor did the mind of the people of that time have concepts, for the things which God revealed to him regarding the history of time before there was any man to observe it. We don't know how it was done: verbally or through visions, or even by God transporting Moses across space and time to observe the events of the Beginning first-hand, as he did with John regarding the End. But however it was, Moses was forced, when he was writing it down, to use the language and ideas which existed in his mortal brain. So for instance, if you look at Gen 1:7 where it talks about the "firmament" which has always been interpreted as "sky" and the waters above the firmament being divided from the waters below, you have to eschew simplistic, crude interpretations and allow for the fact that Moses could have been using the Hebrew word for "water" as the best approximation for what he saw, having no other word to serve. Similarly to how "day" is used to represent the incomprehensibly long periods of change and growth in which these things occurred.

So with this in the back of my mind, I came across the theory today by chance that hypothesizes that space-time is actually a superfluid. (http://phys.org/news/2014-04-liquid-spacetime-slippery-superfluid.html) And there it is: that verse which has always puzzled me makes perfect sense. Moses saw the cosmos from a vantage point other than our human one, and observed the superfluid of space-time filling the void of space, and expressed it the best way he knew how. Bronze age Hebrew didn't have words to express "zero viscosity superfluid".

Think about that. The Bible, after being ridiculed by centuries of "intellectuals" is still proving that it contains knowledge that was hidden until the most recent discoveries, and was recorded 3500 years ago, when the pinnacle of human learning was all about cosmic eggs, divine scarab beetles, and dismembered deities' genitalia.

Saturday, February 6, 2016

My Secret Vice

I have a shameful habit I've never admitted to you: I love "The Big Bang Theory". I don't have television service, but I watch it online. It's the only sitcom I've watched since "Friends" ended.

There's a character in the show, Amy, who is the butt of continual mocking because she's such a nerd. She's a virgin, dresses modestly, plays the harp, loves Mediaeval literature, throws Victorian-themed Christmas dinners with traditional dishes and parlour games, and has all sorts of hobbies and interests which everyone thinks are lame. It's all supposed to be funny because she's so un-cool, but I keep thinking that she's just about perfect.

Friday, February 5, 2016

Clement on Faith

"'Except ye believe, neither shall ye understand.' [Isa 7:9] For how ever could the soul admit the transcendental contemplation of such themes, while unbelief respecting what was to be learned struggled within? But faith, which the Greeks disparage, deeming it futile and barbarous, is a voluntary preconception, the assent of piety--'the subject of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen,' according to the divine apostle. [Heb 11:1] 'For hereby,' pre-eminently, 'the elders obtained a good report. But without faith it is impossible to please God.' [Heb 6:1-2, 6] Others have defined faith to be a uniting assent to an unseen object, as certainly the proof of an unknown thing is an evident assent. If then it be choice, being desirous of something, the desire is in this instance intellectual. And since choice is the beginning of action, faith is discovered to be the beginning of action, being the foundation of rational choice in the case of any one who exhibits to himself the previous demonstrations through faith. Voluntarily to follow what is useful, is the first principle of understanding. Unswerving choice, then, gives considerable momentum in the direction of knowledge. The exercise of faith directly becomes knowledge, reposing on a sure foundation. Knowledge, accordingly, is defined by the sons of the philosophers as a habit, which cannot be overthrown by reason. Is there any other true condition such as this, except piety, of which alone the Word is teacher? I think not. Theophrastus says that sensation is the root of faith. For from it the rudimentary principles extend to the reason that is in us, and the understanding. He who believeth then the divine Scriptures with sure judgment, receives in the voice of God, who bestowed the Scripture, a demonstration that cannot be impugned. Faith, then, is not established by demonstration. 'Blessed therefore those who, not having seen, yet have believed.' [John 20:29]" -- Clement of Alexandria, Stromata, book II, ch. III